| Location | Leeds |
| Age | 4 years |
| Date of Birth | 11/2001 |
| Date of Death | 5/2006 |
| Visitors | 6,192 since 25/07/2007 |
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Oliver James Marshall DOB 2nd November 2001
(our Ol Pol)
He died at 11.10 pm on Friday 26th May 2006
He was 4 when he died in the PICU at St James Hospital,Leeds
Oliver has 2 older brothers Dan & Matthew they were 19 & 6 when he died
Oliver had been poorly on & off for a few weeks before cancer was found, tired and pale and
occasions of vomiting but the GP could find nothing wrong.He was diagnosed with NHL (non-hodgkins
lymphoma) on 21st October 2005. His kidneys were a mass of tumours as was his liver. He needed
dialysis to help him through he first few days before his kidneys strated to show signs of
improvement.His outlook at diagnosis was good and the majority of children who do get this type of
cancer survive. He responded really well to the chemotherapy and the tumours to his liver and
kidneys had gone by Christmas and we thought he was going to be ok. He had a really tough time and
needed a tube down his nose to help with nutrition which he hated but he was so patient and brave I
felt ashamed of the times I would cry.
Oliver was given the all clear and stopped all treatment in March 2006 we had a big family party to
celebrate and to treat him he'd missed so many family birthdays since he'd been ill. That
was on April 1st April Fools Day 2006. April 5th he complained of feeling tired and asked to be
carried and I knew something was wrong. He was sick again Friday morning and back in hospital on
Saturday. He began to have headaches which became worse and worse as did the vomiting. His Drs
couldn't believe the cancer hd come back and his stomach was clear of tumours - they just
didn't know what was wrong. He became worse screaming at pains in his head and body and needed
morphine to get any rest. His speech became slurred he couldn't walk and one eye went
crosseyed. Finally a lumbar puncture confirmed that the NHL was back but this time in his Central
Nervous System hence the headaches, speech & vision problems. This was Easter Monday 16th April.
Immediate chemotherapy brought back an impressive improvement and by Friday his eyes & speech
were normal, he had no more pain and we went home until the following Tuesday when he would start
intensive chemo in the hope thi would kill the cancer. His outlook was not good but we remained
positive.
Oliver had the first chemo course and was due to go home again on the Sunday - he never went home
again. The chemo attacked the cancer but also killed his immune system and it was never able to
recover. He had infection after infection, was in and out of PICU with raging temperatures often
over 40 degrees. He became jaundiced and weaker as he was unable to eat, he was unable to be fed
properly due to his bowels shutting down causing his stomach to swell and then his skin peeled like
some terrible case of sunburn. This went on for 5 weeks, blood and platelet transfusions everyday
but nothing worked and finally his breathing became an issue. He was very confused and not really
with us much by that time but on the very last day of his life he rallied for a little while in the
morning and asked us to watch Big Cook Little Cook & Smarteenies with him on CBeebies.
The end was sudden & unexpected by us and the medical staff. One minute everything was stable
and the next his heart rate plummeted and stopped and he was unable to be revived despite every
effort. He was unconcious at the time and had been for some hours earlier so at least he wasn't
scared and at least me and his daddy were there wth him. The Dr's think his bowel may have
perforated at the end causing potassium to be released and this stopped his heart.
Oliver was the baby of the family, still sucking his thumb when he was diagnosed. He had white
blonde hair and blue eyes. He was funny and bright and very very cute. He had just started nursery
and despite all my concerns that he would miss me took to it like a duck to water. He ws always
brave and rarely cried when he hurt himself a real tough little boy but one who loved a cuddle and
loved being read to.
His constant companion was a toy dog called Flops because he was a floppy bean bag type dog. He had
Flops with him every day until he died and afterwards, the 2 of them were cremated together.
He loved the Star Wars films and we would watch them with him 1 - 6 in order over and over again. He
loved the first series of the new Dr Who and had eagerly looked forward to the 2nd series but sadly
was too ill by the time it started to really watch it.
He loved playing games and cricket with Matthew before getting ill. He was an extraordinary,
ordinary little boy who I never thought I would be without and even now year on I can hardly
believe he is gone. He is missed every single day and always will be.
♫ ♫ Happy Birthday Oliver ♫ ♫
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♪♪♪HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU♫
♫ HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU ♫
♫ HAPPY BIRTHDAY DEAR OLIVER ♫
♪♪♪ HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU ♫
Next to you
You cannot see or touch me
But I'm standing next to you.
Your tears will only hurt me,
Your sadness makes me blue.
Be brave and show a smiling face
Let not your grief show through.
I love you from a different place,
Yet I'm standing next to you.
So sorry Oliver.
Oh sweetheart I am so sorry.I have only just noticed that it was your angel anniversary on the 26th,last Tuesday.Where it does not have your full angel date at the top of your page I missed it. I am putting a picture in your gallery for you.I know it is late but I feel really bad abour forgetting you.How could I? I come on here every day except when something crops up and I didn't realise it was your angel day.I am so sorry Oliver please forgive me.Sending you all my love and great big hugs.xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
9TH MAY 2009
★ WHEN I SEE......★
WHEN I FEEL THE BREEZE I THINK OF YOU.
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WHEN I SEE A BRIGHT STAR I THINK OF YOU.
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WHEN I SEE A LITTLE SUNSHINE I THINK OF YOU.
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WHEN I SEE A BUTTERFLY I THINK OF YOU.
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WHEN I SEE A BEAUTIFUL FLOWER I THINK OF YOU.
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WHEN I SEE A RAINDROP I THINK OF YOU.
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WHEN I SEE THE SKY ABOVE I THINK OF YOU.
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WHEN I SEE A RAINBOW I THINK OF YOU.
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WHEN I SEE THE CLEAR SEA I THINK OF YOU.
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WHEN I SEE A SHADOW I THINK OF YOU.
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WHEN I WAKE I THINK OF YOU.
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WHEN I SEE A WHITE FEATHER I KNOW IT'S YOU.
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LOVE JUDE. X
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★ copyright* Ros Roberts ★
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Tribute for this weekend
Candles will be lit as usual
On Sunday For Monday
To All Parents
“I’ll lend you for a little time
A child of mine,” He said.
“For you to love the while they live
And mourn when they are dead,
“It may be six or seven years,
Or twenty-two or three.
“But will you, till I call them back,
Take care of them for me?
“They’ll bring their charms to gladden you,
But should their stay be brief,
“You’ll have their lovely memories,
As solace for your grief,
“I cannot promise they will stay,
Since all from earth return,
“But there are lessons taught down there
I want this child to learn.
“I’ve looked the wide world over
In my search for teachers true,
“And from the throngs that crowd life’s lanes
I have selected you.
“Now will you give them all your love,
Nor think the labour vain,
“Nor hate me when I come to call
To take them back again?
I fancied that I heard them say:
Dear Lord, Thy will be done!
“For all the joy Thy child shall bring,
The risk of grief we’ll run.
We’ll shelter them with tenderness:
We’ll love them while we may,
And for happiness we’ve known
Forever grateful stay.
“But should the angels call for them
Much sooner than we’d planned.
“We’ll brave the bitter grief that comes
And try to understand.”
Tomorrow
If I should go tomorrow
It would never be goodbye,
For I have left my heart with you,
So don't you ever cry.
The love that's deep within me,
Shall reach you from the stars,
You'll feel it from the heavens,
And it will heal the scars.
Love Lives On
Those we love remain with us
For love itself lives on,
And cherished memories never fade
Because a loved one's gone.
Those we love can never be
More than a thought apart,
Far as long as there is memory,
They'll live on in the heart.
When We Remember
You can shed tears that they are gone
Or you can smile because they have lived
You can close your eyes
And pray that they’ll come back
Or you can open your eyes
And see all they have left
Your heart can be empty
Because you can’t see them
Or you can be happy for tomorrow
Because of yesterday.
You can remember them
And only that they have gone
Or you can cherish their memory
And let it live on
You can cry and close your mind,
Be empty and turn your back
Or you can do what they wanted:
SMILE,
Open your eyes,
LOVE
And go on.
Thoughts Today Memories Forever
Angela(Christopher-John Rowe)Mum
For Friday
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happy valentines day
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___*hug*_______THINK ING________*hug*____
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love christina and family
This Tribute Is For This Weekend
Candles Will Be Lit Again As Usual For Monday
LITTLE ANGELS
When God calls little children
To dwell with Him above,
We mortals sometimes question
The wisdom of His love.
For no heartache compares
With the death of one small child
Who does so much to make our world
Seem wonderful and mild.
Perhaps God tires of calling
The aged to His fold.
So He picks a rosebud
Before it can grow old.
God knows how much we need them
And so He takes but few
To make the land of heaven
More beautiful to view.
Believing this is difficult,
Still somehow we must try.
The saddest word that mankind knows
Will always be 'goodbye'.
So when a little child departs,
We who are left behind
Must realise God loves children
Angels are hard to find.
If roses grow in heaven,
Lord Please pick one for me.
Place it in my Loved ones hand
And tell them it's from me.
Tell them that I love them
And when they turn to smile,
Place a kiss upon their cheek
And hold them for a while.
Remembering them is easy,
I do it every day.
But there's an ache within my heart
That will never go away.
I looked towards the clouds today
And for a moment saw your face.
I wondered just where you have gone
With hope it's a better place.
Did you show yourself to me today,
To tell me you're all right?
Or was it just a daydream
Playing tricks upon my sight?
We will always feel the void inside
Because you are not here.
But each new thought you send our way
Lets us know you're near.
So until our journey nears its end
And we hear the angels sing,
We'll face each new day as it comes
And live off the love you bring.
If tears could build a stairway,
And memories were a lane,
We would walk right up to heaven
And bring you back again.
Our hearts still ache in sadness
And secret tears still flow.
What it meant to lose you
No one can ever know.
But now we know you want us
To mourn for you no more.
To remember all the happy times,
Life still has much in store.
Since you'll never be forgotten,
We pledge to you today:
A hallowed place within our hearts
Is where you'll always stay.
Thoughts Today Memories Forever
Angela(Christopher-John Rowe)Mum
Do you ever sit in an empty room
do you appreciate an open bloom
do you smell its sweet perfume
Do you feel the need to talk out loud
but theres no one there to hear
do you hear a voice call out your name
so close up to your ear
Have you ever felt a sudden chill pass by
and the hairs on your neck stand up
have you gone to pour a cup of tea
but someones moved your cup
Do you believe in angels
do they make you smile
have you felt on on each shoulder
as you walk that wiery mile
Do you know that all these things
are messages to you
do you believe that they exist?
I'll tell you...YES they do
Love & BIG ((HUGS)) ~~ Jane...x♥x
This Tribute Is For This Weekend
Candles Will Be Lit On Sunday Night As Usual
Everyone Have A Good Weekend
To My Dearest Family, Some Things I'd Like To Say.
But first of all, to let you know,
That I arrived okay.
I'm writing this from heaven.
Here I dwell with God above.
Here, there's no more tears of sadness;
Here is just eternal love.
Please do not be unhappy
Just because I'm out of sight.
Remember that I am with you every
Morning, Noon and Night.
That day I had to leave you
When my life on earth was through.
God picked me up and hugged me
And He said, "I welcome you.
It's good to have you back again,
You were missed while you were gone.
As for your dearest family,
They'll be here later on.
There's so much that we have to do,
To help our mortal man."
God gave me a list of things,
That he wished for me to do.
And foremost on the list,
Was to watch and care for you.
And when you lie in bed at night
The day's chores put to flight.
God and I are closest to you....
In the middle of the night.
When you think of my life on earth,
And all those loving years.
Because you are only human,
They are bound to bring you tears.
But do not be afraid to cry:
It does relieve the pain.
Remember there would be no flowers,
Unless there was some rain.
I wish that I could tell you
All that God has planned.
If I were to tell you,
You wouldn't understand.
But one thing is for certain,
Though my life on earth is o'er.
I'm closer to you now,
Than I ever was before.
There are many rocky roads ahead of you
And many hills to climb;
But together we can do it
By taking one day at a time.
It was always my philosophy
And I'd like it for you too;
That as you give unto the world,
The world will give to you.
If you can help somebody
Who's in sorrow and pain;
Then you can say to God at night......
"My day was not in vain."
And now I am contented....
My life was worthwhile.
Knowing as I passed along the way
I made somebody smile.
So if you meet somebody
Who is sad and feeling low;
Just lend a hand to pick him up,
As on your way you go.
When you're walking down the street
And you've got Me on your mind;
I'm walking in your footsteps
Only half a step behind.
And when it's time for you to go....
From that body to be free.
Remember you're not going.....
You're coming here to Me.
X X X X X X X X X X X X X X X X X X X X
The moment that you died,
My heart split in two,
The one side filled with memories,
The other died with you.
I often lay awake at night,
When the world is fast asleep,
And take a walk down memory lane,
With tears upon my cheeks.
Remembering you is easy,
I do it every day,
But missing you is a heartache,
That never goes away.
I hold you tightly within my heart,
And there you will remain,
Life has gone on without you,
But it never will be the same.
For those who still have their LOVED ONES,
Treat them with tender care,
You will never know the emptiness,
As when you turn and they’re not there.
Thoughts Today Memories Forever
Angela(Christopher-John Rowe)Mum
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